Symbiosis60

As some of you already know on April 16th my Mom passed away. Fortunately the end was like we were praying for; she woke up in the morning on Wednesday to welcome the day and then went to sleep forever a few minutes later. Today, April 18th was the service and the funeral. Our mom has touched many hearts and was loved by MANY people. The proof could be the crowd at the church. There were at least 200 people; all of her friends, family and people that knew her. It's beyond me to even try to describe how SAD I am that my Mom is no longer with Us but at the same time I'm SO HAPPY because she no longer has to suffer. Our mom has been bed bound since September of 2007 and has been slipping away little by little. There have been many days that we though she would not survive the night, but as the doctor kept telling us, she had heart as strong as a horse. Sadly cancer relapse was taking its toll and our mom had to be on morphine since the middle of October. As we made a choice to keep our mom at home instead of the hospital, we were lucky enough to have met a retired doctor who runs a home hospice. Our home became the caring place and together with the help of our angel, Ela; a home hospice nurse-volunteer, we were able to provide peace, a better than hospital care and plenty of love and the most importantly a pain free days. Ela was coming to our house EVERY SINGLE day since October 7th to help us with caring for our mom. Our mom has not had a single bed sore which is a miracle considering the amount of time she spent in bed. I know that now our family has two more members; Ela and Ms. Irena who organized the whole home hospice organization. Today was a SAD day but again we were so happy to see how many people love our mom and have been there for all of us throughout this hard time. My Mom liked Tom Jones' song "Green, green grass" and told us she wanted this song at her funeral. So we did...it's not a usual thing in Poland to play "your own" music during the service but heck with it - our mom wanted it and we did it. This is an "easy calming" song and not some jumpy pop but even that surprised a couple of people. During the ceremony some religious songs were sung. One of them was a kind of "chant". I noticed my sister was crying - I told her to imagine our mom singing this song and making jokes of the words (the chant had a phrase "bottoms up" referring to drinking the Vine as Christ's Blood". That made her smile. Our mom was a joker and that's how we want to remember her. It will be hard to forget how much she suffered in the past few months but she will ALWAYS know that we did EVERYTHING we could and that she was surrounded with LOVE. I'd like to send a BIG THANK YOU's to everyone for your support and memory. Even It's good to know that we are surrounded by so many friends who were there for all of Us. I thank You all from the bottom of my heart and even though the end was painful for all of Us, our Mom has won the battle in a way...she was fighting cancer for almost twenty years - which is a twenty additional years we were blessed with.


Mama - I will ALWAYS LOVE YOU